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Deafness or deafness?

If anyone knows what this is from, let me know! I wanna watch it. XD

Hey fam! I know, right? Two posts in a week after radio silence for ages! Who’d have thunk?

Anyways, on to the topic of our second International Week of the Deaf post: Deafness or deafness?

Many of you are probably wondering what I’m talking about. Aren’t they the same word? Well, yes. But in this context, they are very very different things. You see, what we’re talking about here today is the difference between the capital D– Deafness, and the lowercase d– deafness. First though, some back information.

In the deaf world, there are two views of being deaf. There’s the medical view of deafness, with the purely physical, that’s-all-there-is-to-it, get-aids-and-go-about-your-regular-hearing-life way of seeing things. This is generally the way that medical professionals approach hearing impairment, viewing it simply as a problem to be aided or fixed.

Then there is capital D– Deaf. This takes the perspective that hearing loss isn’t something to be cured, but a part of your identity, a part of the way you approach the world. It brings a beautifully complex language and a tight knit, welcoming community with it, complete with a culture as rich and as full of heart as any other. Also humor. The Deaf make some pretty amazing comedians! There’s something to be said for being able to have a sense of humor through disability.

Members of the Deaf community may have anything from a moderate or mild hearing loss to total deafness. It’s a wide spectrum that encompasses the many flavors of hearing impairments, from the physical (damage to the ear, cochlea, etc) to the neurological (auditory neuropathy, Usher’s disease, etc.). However, it’s not the hearing loss that defines someone in the Deaf community, it’s the participation. The enjoyment one finds in spending time with people like themselves. The inclusion where you were once excluded, the relief that fills you when you realize that everyone there communicates in a way that is compatible with you rather than you struggling to keep up with them.

It’s friendship and acceptance. It’s no one thinking your strange when your brain gets tired and the hearing aids just have to come off.

Not everyone in the Deaf community is necessarily deaf. There are hearing parents and children, family, teachers and interpreters. All of the people that find themselves brought together into a vast network that spans the world wide. It’s the sharing of language and understanding, of shared hurts and of the experiences and joys that another simply couldn’t understand. In this age of technology, when we have the world literally at our fingertips, this is more true than ever. It’s nothing at all to find other people like yourself on the internet, whatever community you may be a part of.

Still confused? Do you have your own thoughts or experiences you would like to share? Let us know in the comments! And as always, friend,

I leave you now with Peace and Passion.

Ta!

Bliggety Blogs · Primary

It’s International Week of the Deaf! (Also I’m not dead!)

Savage. XD

Yes, I know what you’re thinking and yes, I have in fact risen from the dead in search of at least one brain together among the masses.

Yep. 2020 has hit us all like a case of violent, explosive diarrhea.

I haven’t posted in quite a while because, honestly? What could I write that hasn’t been expounded upon in every possible way? What could I say that hasn’t been beaten to death already? This year has left me with a sense of perpetual disappointment, discontentment, and discouragement. Every time I’ve sat down to blog especially, I’ve felt myself get stuck on all the things I don’t want to talk about.

I think most of us have probably been left feeling that way lately at some point.

It feels really strange in this year to talk about celebrating something (coming from someone with a birthday this week). The West is on fire, the coast is drowning, there are riots in the streets, and a pandemic has caused death and sickness on a global scale. For once though, just this once this year, let’s celebrate something. And this week has brought us something to celebrate.

September 20th marks the beginning of the International Week of the Deaf. Most of you are probably wondering what that is and what it means and probably why you should care. This week I’m going to be breaking it down for you! After all, you don’t have to be deaf to get in on this celebration.

So, join me this week for a few days to celebrate our deaf community members, what deafness is and the strides and hurdles that the deaf community has had to struggle against and overcome even to this day.

I’ll tell you about my experiences in the deaf community and answer some of your most burning questions that you always wanted to know but were too embarrassed or cautious to ask.

You know we all have them, even me!

Yup. We’re gonna talk about this.

We will learn, laugh, we will get mad and we will even, maybe, make a difference in someone’s life.

So grab some ear plugs and drag-up that ABC finger spelling knowledge from kindergarten because this week, we are going Deaf or going home!

This one is actually me!

With Peace and Passion,
Ta!

Adventures In Unschooling · Bliggety Blogs · Poems, Songs, and Shorts

Snapshots of Our Summer Days

A little breath of beautiful on your desk goes a long way.

Why not put a little bit of beautiful everywhere? Anywhere you have a long and laborious task to do, put something that uplifts your spirit and it can make the task seem much easier than it did before. 🙂

First Girl Scouts badge! We do Little Maxwell’s Girl Scouts virtually so her bad just come in the mail when she earns them! 🙂 For those of you who have always thought about scouts for your own littles but didn’t think you could make meetings or events, now just might be the perfect time to give it a shot. The scouts have set up everything virtually now and even did a virtual camp this summer! Very fun!

We’ve been finding planets in the night sky the last few weeks and when we find a new one, Little Maxwell gets to color in the planet on these drawings we did! 🙂 We’re going to start doing constellations next!

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Missing and murdered indigenous women or MMIW is a cause that I feel really passionate about and that really needs some intense recognition. I will be doing a post on this coming up soon but I’m hoping to get some interviews from women in the indigenous community for it. Since I am intensely Caucasian, I’m not able to be a part of that community and so it doesn’t seem right to talk about such an important issue myself without the voices of the community as the forefront. But for those of you who want to learn more about this in the meantime, I urge you please to look into it. Not only has covet hit their populations intensely hard but the lost women of the indigenous community need help. No woman and any community should have to be afraid of becoming a victim.

She drew me, her, and a heart. :3

Lego Unikitty! Legos are a great way to add counting, creative play, sorting, as well as other math skills into your play. 🙂 We are a big lover of Legos in our house.

Rainy day play day!

Using our nature book, we believe that this nest is for grackle eggs!

A lunch out with family doesn’t have to mean not being safe!

Parenting · Poems, Songs, and Shorts · Primary

You Are My World

The world I inhabit vibrates on the

frequency of your heart

The air I breathe is my admiration,

My adoration,

My deepest love for you.

The sun that hangs within my sky

Is your smile,

The wind your dance,

The sound of the rain in the trees

Your laughter.

My awareness,

Consciousness,

The sight of your sleeping face,

The smell of your hugs,

The sound of your amazement and joy.

The taste of my heartbeat on my tongue

As you rush daringly,

Headlong into the world.

The feel of you in my arms

As you seek simply the comfort,

The company,

Of mother.

I love you, sweet baby,

My love,

My life.

My earth,

My sea,

My love to thee.

Adventures In Unschooling · Eco-Loving Living! · Primary

A State Park & Our Latest Snapshots!

These are some snaps from our last month of our unschooling and homesteading journey! We took a field trip to one of our local state parks this month so join us on our adventure! Maybe you’ll get some ideas for things to do with your own children or even for yourself. Ta!

This was an activity about dental hygiene. Learning about how to care for our teeth! We started with some yellow and orange squares for teeth, an old toothbrush and some white “toothpaste”paint! Lots of fun!
Our blueberries! Little Maxwell’s new favorite outside snack. 🙂
This is a really cool dry erase kindergarten learning book. 🙂 Today, we practiced letters and numbers!
Our first tomato flowers! Our whole homestead is in bloom and every day things are different. Bigger, brighter, and more magnificent than the day before. Every day is a new treasure to feast the spirit upon!

These are our snapshots from our morning spent at Radnor Lake State Park! The area truly was a vision of beauty, a wildlife reserve for so many species! We saw so many wonderful things and I would love to go back! Maybe on a day when the temperature wasn’t set to Broil though!

Nothing says ‘FUN’ like adventures with friends!
A bracket fungus! I…think. Honestly, I’d never seen one like this so if anyone can chime in, please do!
A particularly droopy mushroom on a fallen tree!
This was an enormous uprooted tree! This black snake found it to be a particularly nice resting place.
While watching these turtles, we ended up counting ten of them! There were so many hanging out on these looks in the water that I couldn’t even get them all in frame.
“Exxxcusssse me. Do you have time to hear about our lord and ssssssavior, Lord Voldemort?”
The Littles were so concerned because they thought this little worm-friend was hurt. ❤️

We had such a wonderful adventure together! I would definitely recommend seeing if you have any state or national park nearby. It really makes for an amazing and educational day!

With Peace and Passion!

Ta!

Bliggety Blogs · Parenting · Poems, Songs, and Shorts · Primary

Finding Discovery! Reclaiming Play!

Little Maxwell was having a blast.

We were walking to my mother’s home just the net street over after two weeks of zero contact. Both of us were practically frothing to see our family.

We were all so close. ‘The Maxwell Clan’, as a college history professor had joked during roll call when my mum, sister, and I all shared his class together. My family was so accustomed to seeing one another regularly. It was completely normal to get surprise visits and drop ins just to hang out or say hello or even to just bring some treat or another by. Simply because we had been thinking about them.

We loved one another completely and the quarantines had been wearing on us all. Little Maxwell was over the moon to see her Nana but that fact certainly didn’t stop her from taking her sweet. freaking. time getting there. She stopped for every little flower or ditch. Every blade of grass.

My patience had worn rapidly thin.

But why?’ I thought suddenly, ‘Why am I in such a hurry? Why am I getting aggravated right now?’

It wasn’t as if we were on a time crunch or had anywhere in particular to be. There were no appointments this afternoon and no particular rush to get back home. The day was our oyster, so why? It took me only a moment or two of quiet contemplation, watching my daughter slide down the side of a driveway embankment as if she were on the jungle gym, before the answer started to reveal itself to me.

Our motivations as children and adults are inherently different.

As a child, we are simply along for the journey, taking the world as it comes. They are in the passenger seat of the car, watching and enjoying the beautiful scenery as it goes by rather than the driver, having to navigate the twisting and often treacherous road ahead.

As grown-ups were so focused on the end goal. Getting from one place to the next, doing what we needs to be done and completely the task so we can move on to the next, then the next, in perpetuity.

But she embraces the adventure of the journey. Step-stepping back and forth across the ditch and stopping to pick wildflowers and interesting rocks, little finds that may or may not make it back into the house with us. To stop as I pointed out the sneaky poison ivy and observing it’s almost hand-shaped leaves. Little light up tennis shoes sparked with every jump and determined step as she danced and explored the road ahead.

Her little face lights up with every new discovery and challenge undertaken. When had we as adults lost that? At what point in life did we stop jumping into challenges or reaching out towards discovery with all of the curiosity of a puppy in a pet store? When had we compressed our spirits? Tucked in the edges of ourselves and made ourselves smaller, more dense as a result?

And who had we done it for?

Sometimes we get low,
Sometimes we get down,
There are nights when I just
Want to lay on the ground
.

And not get back up,
The thought makes me sick
When I think of all the things
I’d miss out on if I did.

We all reach a point
Where the fight gets old
And it’s hard to hang onto
Those things you have and hold

Like where’s my point North
The direction that I head?
Don’t get me wrong,
I’m not wishing I was-

Well, you get the idea
But as the battles wear on,
At times, I look down
At the ground that I’m upon,

And wish that I could sleep
For just a thousand years or so
To rest and to dream
To sleep and to slow

All of the stresses
That impresses
Upon my mind,
They need addressing

It’s relentless,
All this pressure,
Quarantined
With too much leisure.

With all the doubts news spitting out
People screwing up their thoughts
Breathing in the “truths”,
Smog from clickbait bots

Until there are so many fears
To clammer in your brain
Media voices in your head
Pouring down like acid rain.

Eroding holes
Into the hearts of Man,
Wearing away our foundations
Breaking them down to just sand.

Seeing my own eroding curiosity mirrored back in opposite brought a sort of sickened realization and, in response, a determination. I never wanted to lose my love of learning, of discovery, exploration, of play.

Giving her a grin, I whistled over to her. Those beloved ocean eyes turned on me with an ansering smile.

“Race you!”

With Peace and Passion (and every growing curiosity!)

Ta!

Bliggety Blogs · Poems, Songs, and Shorts · Primary

Consequences of the Senses: a short story

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It’s so dark here in this place. So quiet.

The silence muffled my world as surely as the blanket I curled in so snuggly. It had been silent here for some time and often, I often wondered if it wasn’t actually muted but I had simply lost my hearing. Perhaps I had gone deaf at some juncture. Surely nothing natural could be so soundless. Maybe it wasn’t always dark and my sight had failed me as well. How was I to ever know? I knew that I had a self. I existed because there was awareness to be had. I was conscious of thought and the lack of sight and sound. So I existed. Now where exactly was I? Was I anywhere? Was it possible to be aware of yourself but not be anywhere, in a defined space?

I supposed, logically, I had to be somewhere. Maybe a cave since it was so dark and quiet. Even caves had some sound, though, didn’t they? Droplets falling from the ceiling and the low, nearly imperceptible hum of air moving through large shafts and caverns in the ground. All that my sluggish memory could draw up was…the sense of falling. A splash of water, cold and unforgiving. The well. That was right. Seth had pushed me into the well, that stinkbrain! Mrs. Herring was going to be so mad when I told her what he’d done!
Maybe this was the hospital, then. There was a sharp stab of vicious satisfaction at he image of the bully getting what was coming to him at last. My greatest regret was that there would be no way for me to witness his punishment if I was both blind and deaf. Was this going to last forever? I stretched out my remaining senses one by one, trying to identify my surroundings and find any trace of familiarity around me.

I could smell…wood and lime, the kind that Miss Marta used around the trash bins in the summer when the heat got unbearable, cooking and swelling the garbage until we couldn’t even play outside for the smell. There was a sweet smell beneath it too, something that I didn’t care for at all but could not rightly identify. I had a blanket and I was laying on a hard surface. I got the sense that it was once rather uncomfortable but I suppose I had grown accustomed to it, my nerves dulling to the discomfort. I was curled up in the fabric snugly but the softness I once was so fond of was now somewhat scratchy and faded. It would always be my favorite though, no matter how much I wore it out. Beneath me, the blanket was moist and scratchy, as if I had had an accident and it had dried to a tacky substance. The feel of something crinkly was beneath that still. There was something new now that was piercing my world. Something so unusual that I barely recognized what it was at first. Sound.

The creaking of footsteps on old wood and low talking. Well, at least I knew I still had my hearing. It also ruled out a hospital since they were always the sound of beeping and linoleum. The voices were male, two of them from what I could tell and they were approaching me. I couldn’t see them. My world was still black in my blindness, but I could make out a few words here and there.

“…Creepy old place…lots of cool stuff here…”

“Check this out.”

And suddenly there was a rusty creeeeeaaakkkkkk, followed by a light so bright and vivid that I couldn’t make out anything else for some time. I heard the boys startle back and one of them threw up in the corner of the room.

“Oh shit…Oh shit, man.”

“What-?! What is that thing?!”

“I think-” A low whimper, “I think it’s a kid…”

When the light cleared, I wish I could have thrown up too. The light filtered in from a window through a thick sheet of plastic surrounding me. I was wrapped up in my blanket as if I had just laid down to bed. Around it, thick sheets of plastic that had been over the furniture in our playroom where Mr. Herring had been painting. The wetness I was lying in hadn’t been an accident. It hadn’t been a spill.

It had been what was left of me, seeping into the bottom of a large wooden chest that Seth had once told me the boogeyman lived in. The smell of lime was overpowering but they hadn’t used enough. Not nearly enough.

‘Child’s Body Found In Attic of Abandoned Children’s Home’

Yesterday, the body of an unidentified child was found in a wooden chest in an Amarillo attic in. Officials on the case say that the building had been abandoned for quite some time but had once functioned as a children’s home for displaced orphans. Amarillo police have determined that the girl, wrapped in a blanket, appears to have been between the ages of seven and ten and had been dead for quite some years. Coroners have yet to determine the cause of death or exactly how long the girl had been there, but officials are asking the public for any help they can in finding any information on the young Jane Doe or the location of the previous matron, Mr. or Mrs. Herring.’

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A Word From The Author:

Spooky! I’ve had this piece hanging around for a few years now and, after digging it up for an anthology submission contest, I decided to share it with all of you! I hope you enjoyed it and let me know if you like these little shorts and if you’d like more!

With Peace and Passion.

Ta!

Bliggety Blogs · Primary

My Ugly Little Garden

“-and she just picks it up and uses it.”

The whisper came to me in the heat of our mid-May mid-afternoon. The words settled in against my skin, against the sweat and the dirt that had become as familiar to me as the worn trainers on my feet.

The hammer in my hand stilled in it’s work on the piece of old wood I was repurposing into a makeshift fence.

Suddenly, I felt something that I’d never felt before when it came to my little homestead.

Embarrassment.

Around several of the beds were makeshift fences made from scrap wood, quarter round molding, even sticks jutting up from the ground. Anything to keep my large shepherd mix dog from trampling my vegetables underpaw. It was practical. It was made for function.

It was ugly. But it was what I had.

A little spot for my Swiss chard made from old portrait frames. Strawberries in an old bottomed-out plastic bin turned raised bed. Five gallon buckets hosting broccoli sprouts. An old trash can had even become a planter for a very lovely potato plant.

Where before now, I had felt pride in all I had accomplished with so little, now I felt a sick sort of shame. Embarrassment that my sprawling garden didn’t look picture perfect with neat and tidy rows, like theirs did. Theirs looked like a magazine. Mine…looked like a garage sale threw up in it.

A melancholy fell over my spirit, squishing down the thanks I had felt for another day of sunshine and a job well done.

Unkindly, I had a moment when I berated myself. I thought I had been done with this whole ‘caring about the opinions of others’ thing years ago. Apparently I had built up a resistance but had yet to become truly immune.

But… Then something came to me. A declaration from the Roots and Refuge video I had watched just recently. A commandment to use what was available and that a garden made for production wasn’t going to look like a garden made for simple enjoyment.

That simple bit of wisdom brought to me a slowly dawning clarity. A clarity that lightened my heart in ways that my own efforts had simply failed to do.

Their’s was picture perfect, it was true. Mine was ugly, threadbare, and misbegotten but it was mine. My garden wasn’t planted to give me a fun hobby, it was planted to feed my family. For production and functionality, not for looks and a quarantine time sink.

Our garden wasn’t beautiful but the feeling I got from tilling this earth, from planting each seed with care and love, expectation and experiment excitement, was beautiful. Months of composting kitchen scrap, coffee grounds, and paper. Watching every seed grow every single day, rain or heat or cold.

Our garden was a love letter. An affectionate labor that grew every day with budding potential and with a green, growing promise for the future. The songs we sing within its beds and borders gather like dew drops amongst petals and reaching roots.

The coolness of the mornings, bright with the rising sun and the smells of the growing world around me, have felt more holy than any mass or communion. I have shed blood and sweat in the building of this sacred temple to the earth and they have been transformed. My sorrows became songs and my fears became laughter. Here amongst the green things I have found peace.

So yes. My garden is ugly. My garden is a patchwork rag doll. But in this place, I have found hope, purpose. In this mismatched place, my daughter plays and runs and grows just as surely as that lovely potato in the old trash can. It is with irreverent reverence that I vow never to be embarrassed of my ugly garden again. For it has given me back every bit as much as I have given it. For in my ugly garden we are home.

With Peace and Passion (and Potatoes!)

Ta!

Also, stay tuned for a tour of our ugly little garden coming up soon! ❤

Adventures In Unschooling · Parenting · Primary

Snapshots of a Day In The QUARANTINED Unschooling Life!

So obviously these are from before my isolation. We are still quarantining in our home since I am on immunosuppressants (and had a pretty shitty immune system before anyways). I did want to bring you guys another of these photographic glimpses into our day to day though. They are so much fun and I always hope that our activities might inspire some of you as well! So with further ado, here’s a look into our life.

We watched the sunset together from our driveway! Have your littles noticed that the sun is setting later and later now? Tell them why!
Backyard camp out day? Yes please! Little Maxwell is having some quiet time in the tent here after a long day of play. On top of the homesteading farm we’ve begun in our spacious backyard, the yard is also fenced in so there’s a lot less worry when it comes to just letting her play and social distancing.
An unlucky cousin had to come stay with us for a bit one day from Murfreesboro (about an hour away from us!). But Little Maxwell and K-Bug are the best of friends! We all enjoyed some quality snuggle time while watching Charlie Brown! 🙂
Who can have any education when there hasn’t been a baking soda and vinegar volcano involved? After reading one of her favorite books about Pete the Cat and his supercool science fair volcano, how could we resist? We used some leftover Easter Egg dying kits to make colorful, glittery volcanoes after sprinkler play! Pro-tip: Do these before the sprinkler!
We explored Google’s VR animals! This was so much fun! Here she is pretending to be asleep while a creepy croc comes and does a sneak! 😉
We drew a frog and caterpillar we saw in the bushes this day! Have your child draw what they see in nature. Not only does it make them aware of the world around them but fine motor skills are crucial for learning good penmanship!
We found a caterpillar and made a little habitat for it so we could learn about their growth. I can’t wait to see it become a pupa! Did you know that they actually liquify in there?!
Peek-a-boo!

With Peace and Passion!

Ta!

Bliggety Blogs · My Medical Journey

The COVID Diaries: Chapter 1

Chapter 1

Isolation

It isn’t too bad in here. It’s quiet. Relaxing almost compared to the hecticness of my typical days. I stayed up binging a new Netflix show until almost 4:00 a.m. because what else did I have to do?

It’s funny to think that during the everyday shuffling go we would typically be dying for moments of quiet like this. But right now all I want to do is hold my little girl. Just to touch her and kiss her and tell her that everything is going to be okay. That Mommy is going to be okay. That I’m still here, right here, on the other side of this door.

Some people have said, ‘Well you all live in close contact and you’ve given her kisses. If you have it, she definitely has it by now.’

But if it were your baby girl or baby boy and you had the chance, even the smallest chance, of protecting them from something like COVID, wouldn’t you do it? Isn’t a few days in a room to yourself worth even the smallest chance that you could protect your baby from that?

There’s a little blue bunny that Little Maxwell was given by a nurse when she was about 3 months old. We were at Vanderbilt Children’s Hospital. We’d had to take her in to have scans done on her brain because they were concerned that she was having seizures. It killed me to see all of those little electrodes waxed on to the entirety of her head. They’d wrapped her whole head with gauze to keep them all on, even underneath her little chin. The nurse had given her the bunny after it was all over to cheer her up after they’d removed all of the electrodes.

It’s a cheap little thing. They probably get them in by the dozens in the children’s hospital But all this time I kept it. Something about it just made me think back to that time and her wrapped up in that gauze and how I would do anything, anything in the world, for my baby girl.

Tonight, just after dinner, she brought the bunny to me just like the nurse had brought it to her. She said it would keep me company and that I could sleep with it.

It was one of those significant moments. So small and so tender, yet it strikes you down to the very quick of your spirit. It has the power to move whole mountains. The love between a child and a mother. When I get out of here, I’m going to think of this bunny a lot differently from here on out. It’s odd to think that such simple things can come to be cherished so much, a symbol of love and hope and looking ahead to a better future.

When I get out of here, I’m going to be able to give it back to her myself.

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From quarantine solitary confinement,

With Peace and Passion.

Ta.